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June 17 Small words but big thoughtsAsk for forgiveness, not for permission
Burn the boat
Don't boil the ocean
The Devil is in the details
Get your hands dirty
Think out of the Box
Under promise, over deliver
The check is in the mail
Have an ace up your sleeve
Start from the scratch
KEEP IT SIMPLE AND STUPID
SUCCESS=SIMPLE, UNEXPECTED, CONCRETE, CREDIBLE EMOTIONAL, STORY, STICKY August 09 人生若只如初见常常在朋友的签名档上看到这句话，
我自己也用过。
——人生若只如初见，
也许是看了此名的网络小说，
或者又读了纳兰容若的原词，
但凡写了这句在自己的签名档上的朋友，
多半，都有自己的感悟。
我，只是独独喜欢这一句而已。
没有看过以此命名的小说，
浅浅地读了一次纳兰的词，
词里感叹若免不了初见后薄情郎的背弃，
倒不如只停留初见。
只是，人又如何阻止初见后的欲望，
若遭遇了背弃，
最终，会回到初见的场景，
是自欺欺人也好，是自我保护也罢，
当渐行渐远时，
偶尔回头一看，
那人那事，早已被定格在初见时分，
相形甚远，模糊不清，触手亦不可及，
才发现，
人生，本就是初见。
无伦一见钟情也好，日久生情也罢，
永远只在那初见的0.2秒，
决定了接下来发生的一切。 May 25 MAP 联想地图在PPaper上看到一个版面挺有意思，
写出5分钟内脑子里反应出来的15个名字，
然后对其各自抒发联想，天马行空，
倒不是要有个什么学术的结果，只是单纯的大脑运动。
或者我意识到了更为重要的是，它实际确实反映了我们的思考现状，
每天成千上万的信息以各种形式无孔不入地渗入我们的生活，
我们不停不停的被迫接受信息，还没有经过咀嚼反馈，就已被新的信息替代。
其显著症状就充分在我身上体现，
每天听到很多新名词，却实际没有时间真正了解，
接受信息的速度和流量都太急太大，
以至觉得自己只是个沙漏，信息一头进一头出，
然后发现自己的语言越来越贫乏难以表达自我，
写的BLog也是充满晦涩短句，
当然，我的blog有时是故意写的只有自己看得懂，
因为我只是想留下一些记忆的标签，或者说坐标，当自己重读时，
知道在记忆的某个地方给自己一些启示，警示，暗示，明示...就够了。
有点离题，回来。
我决定以Key Words形式来记录每天我主动捕捉到的信息，
并真正给予自己的大脑一些思考的空间，
加以表达，记录......
大学时代，一个人说我天真单纯，我不会承认相信（嘿嘿，某人要偷笑了），
但若不断有人说我太单纯，我不得不好好反省一下自己了。
于是，我想说，其实，本质原因就是，
我比较懒，不喜欢复杂的事情，所以意识到自己要加强大脑运动，
我比较固执，容易活在自己的世界，所以我一直都知道自己要用一辈子学的大智慧是“放手”，
但，有些底线是不会改变的，比如向善，比如宽容，
我宁可先看到那些美好，简单，每个人，每件事都有，只是多少而已，
保持平静的心态，吃亏是福，我想，这总是对的。
看清这些，我想，即使有天我变得世俗老道~至少，我还是个好人。
当然，我还是希望既能大俗大雅，又能简单成熟，大智若愚...哈哈。
May 21 A Perfect Mess每天，有人离开，有人到来，，，
突然眼前出现了幻想，，，
离开的人渐渐模糊，解码，最后成为一些数字，一些字母，被删除。
到来的人渐渐模糊，解码，最后成为一些数字，一些字母，被储存。
我有理由相信这是一个进化的过程，
信息时代正是从0,1这两个数字独自起源，发展，进化，
而后进行物种侵略，同化人类，最终将这世上自认为最复杂的物种用最简单的方法消灭。
Nothing and Everything,
This is a world without Us.
April 17 Think it OverToday we have higher buildings and wider highways,
but shorter temperaments and narrower points of view;
We spend more,but enjoy less; We have bigger houses,but smaller famillies; We have more compromises,but less time; We have more knowledge,but less judgment; We have more medicines,but less health; We have multiplied out possessions,but reduced out values; We talk much,we love only a little,and we hate too much; We reached the Moon and came back, but we find it troublesome to cross our own street and meet our neighbors;
We have conquered the uter space,but not our inner space; We have highter income,but less morals; These are times with more liberty,but less joy; We have much more food,but less nutrition; These are the days in which it takes two salaries for each home, but divorces increase;
These are times of finer houses,but more broken homes; That's why I propose,that as of today; You do not keep anything for a special occasion. because every day that you live is a SPECIAL OCCASION.
Search for knowledge,read more ,sit on your porch and admire the view without paying attention to your needs;
Spend more time with your family and friends, eat your favorite foods,visit the places you love;
Life is a chain of moments of enjoyment;not only about survival; Use your crystal goblets.Do not save your best perfume, and use it every time you feel you want it. Remove from your vocabulary phrases like"one of these days"or "someday"; Let's write that letter we thought of writing "one of these days"! Let's tell our families and friends how much we love them; Do not delay anything that adds laughter and joy to your life; Every day,every hour,and every minute is special; And you don't know if it will be your last. August 22 北极熊竟然淹死了～昨天偶尔看了纪实频道的记录片，
在北极上空发现北极冰层融化的速度，
已经，，，连北极熊都淹死了。
这是个超出我想象的比喻，
只是知道情况应该很糟糕。
当我们几年前开始流行讨论全球变暖的问题，
如今，却真的已经岌岌可危了，
如果说，
海平面每年上升一厘米的程度不能令我们感到什么，
（身处上海的我们怎么有资格说，要淹第一个把上海淹了）
那么对于南太平洋中间的岛国图瓦卢Tuvalu来说，
每一次潮汐也许都将吞没他们的家园，
平均海拔3米，最高点也就海拔5米，
每年夏季涨潮都会吞没30％的土地，
纪录片里放了一段气象局播报大潮来临的预警，
“在这样的时刻，我只能问候大家了，，，，”
看着这镜头里湛蓝的海水，
却是吞噬一切的力量，，，，
October 18 Logical thinking (1)When hypnotized subjects are told that they are deaf and are then asked whether they can hear the hypnotise,
they reply, 'No.' Some theorists try to explain this result by arguing that the selves of hypnotized subjects are
dissociated into separate parts, and that the part that is deaf is dissociated from the part that replies.
Which of the following challenges indicates the most serious weakness in the attempted explanation described
above?
A) Why does the part that replies not answer, 'Yes'?
B) Why are the observed facts in need of any special explanation?
C) Why do the subjects appear to accept the hypnotist's suggestion that they are deaf?
D) Why do hypnotized subjects all respond the same way in the situation described?
E) Why are the seperate parts of the self the same for all subjects?
Tell me if you know the answer^^! September 10 Think Big do Small! It's up to the individual to make a go of it, irrespective of any external objection.
To take a leaf from Ma yun's book on the attitude to career and life,
Only one precious sentence, that's it.....
THINK BIG DO SMALL...
Step on the moment, Now.
Sometimes, it is not correct when u're always saying correctly. September 03 选秀 这是个选秀的季节，我型我秀，加油，好男儿，旅游形象大使...自从有了短信，便有了这一并的副产品。
我非常纳闷为什么会有这么多人跟在这些曾经与你擦肩而过互不相识却猛然间横空出世的人物，
与其，说是选秀的时节，不如，说是英雄缺失的年代。
Hero，生来就是给人膜拜敬仰的，或者这些人根本称不上英雄，只是，恰好，迎合了靡靡众生的心灵缺口，
信仰，实则是愚昧人类与生俱来的本能，也许是因为获得无法确知的神奇力量的恩赐之后的连带产物，
为了告知，人本就被造的不够完美，为何还不快去感恩自省。。。
只是，结果，
当获得卓越智慧的我们的先祖背弃着诺言暗自造就通往天际的神塔之时，
神灵早已看到这是一群骄横自大的东西，，，神灵愤怒而去，留下了自生自灭的命运。。。
这欢呼雀跃的簇拥激起一阵阵的涟漪，又怎能称之为信仰，，，
我站在高台，看着漫漫人头簇拥的街市，却无奈下一刻，便乘着自动扶梯让自己浸没其中。。。
我带着忏悔，望向天际。。。 June 24 GOD PLAY THE BIGGEST TRICK! ALWAYS.Life is a gift, but life is going on!
Not only means the living things themselves, but the way living things live in the world.
Both two can be considered as 'life', double meaning of it,
the first trick God play, etymologically.
Yep, the hot day is going on also.
Preparing for the final exams, 2 days a book,
I doult, since I can learn so fast ,
no excuse for me to be so ignorant!!
I do realize my ignorance, always dying to learn new thing,
but plans on schedule are always undone, why?
Everyone needs a self-actualization, an appetency to share one's own life,
since LIFE IS REGARDED AS GIFT, a gift is doomed to be exchanged,
that's the way to actualize ones value of his/her life.
But from who?
The public? Society? ...
It's the key point and the mystery God left...
At least one person, so-called the soul mate.
I can not expect that much, but at least one person in the world,
that's why people always pursuing love.
But the pursuing is full of twists and zigzags...
Why?
Even I know clearly about the trick God playing,
I cannot stop expecting, I do not want it!
that's the instinct of lives,
means u are born with it...so-called original sin, ethically
another trick God playing.
At least, I'm awake now, but dare no reaction yet.
'cause YOU CAN NEVER PLAY GOD!
'cause LIFE IS A GIFT once God offer the GIFT to u, no return any more.
Real meaning of the sentence, logically.
March 25 灵魂的事一整夜未眠，想要独享这所有的空间，一刻也不愿错过；
人始终矛盾，想要逃避孤独，却害怕靠近，
于是，此刻，我这么享受寂寞；
心很平静，在这深夜，在这黎明，，，
续了第三杯不加糖的速溶雀巢，，，
习惯这种苦涩的味道，
<阿司匹林>的女人称道，
维持一种习惯比改掉简单的多，
于是，习惯成为一种坚忍甚至是归宿；
于是，习惯之后的麻木，已经让我不觉这咖啡的苦涩，
和Daisy谈到灵魂的事，是的，很久没有把灵魂放出来休息了，
我们都太疲于奔命，为了肉体的生存，
我有太久没有好好端起一本书来，抚慰我的灵魂了，
一本书，
一首歌，
一杯咖啡，
偶尔奢望一抹阳光的午后，
便是我所有灵魂出鞘的时候了，，，
于是，此时此刻，扔下手中一叠GRE，，，
捧起三毛《梦里花落之多少》，，，
此女子的灵魂，在荷西的手中，得到企盼，也随之落土，，，
也许此刻仍旧在那片沙漠飘荡，
因为这女子的灵魂从来不是为躯体依附的，
那么我这般灵魂的事，又该交付于谁，
还是紧紧锁住，以求自保，，，
Anyway, 继续看GRE吧，看这个，用不着灵魂出动。。。
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March 21 for Daisy：我的心中每天开出一朵花给自己的写字桌上每天放上一朵花，，，
那是一种生活态度，一种心情，，，
一响起音乐你就忍不住唱歌，
一响起音乐我就忍不住跳舞，
这是一种语言，一种表达，
平静的心不会受到束缚，
即使无人欣赏，无人鼓掌，
我也要继续跳舞，
你也会继续高歌，
我们站在山顶，风来了，我们张开双手，，，
整个世界都是我们的，，，
明年情人节没人送花给你，我会再买一朵白玫瑰给你。 March 11 <Sex and the City>I watched the final episode of <Sex and the City>,
It always brings me some new thoughts...
When Carrie finally met MR BIG in Paris with tears bursted out,
when he finally said I took a long time come to u, but I come...
It seems all twists between them deserved...
It seems all the four women get a perfect end...
The last question Carrie referred is about relationships——
About relationships
There're those to open u up to something new and exhausted； those that are old and familiar； those that bring up lots of questions；
those that bring u somewhere unexpected； those that run u far from where u started, and those that bring u back...
but the most exciting , challenging and significent relationship of all is the one u have urself, and if u find someone love u and u love, Welll, that's just fabulous.
But, sounds a little wierd, maybe after 6 years later, she turns all the doubts back to the origin...The perfect thing is to own a relationship full with love in hand...
Keep the love simplest way,,,but it really costs time to suspect and believe it after u experienced....nothing canbe convincible than the authority of time.
So, Let the Time tell u the truth.
And after all, after finishing 6 seasons calling MR. BIG, I at last got the name of him: John...
That's a perfect clue through the whole series. March 10 For Grace: About differences between men and womenDear,
I read this from your space...
no surprising to find we had the same thoughts at almost the same second again...
___________________
女人和男人是不同的动物, 女人在意眼前的命运地图
男人会看得更远, 但往往落于过于好高务远; 或是,过于自信,安逸于现状... Dear,
I can totally see the differencies between men and women. But I always ignored them before for the belief that as long as I display the naked soul, I can be understood...but it seemed I was often wrong after being hurted or hurting others.
I thought repeatedly, I even read some psycology books, and maybe it shows me some hints.
About past:
Maybe a man will pay more attention on his or his mate's past than do a woman. So ladies, never mention your past men before your current one which I was told by a man. Once a woman falls into a new relationship, she will assemble all her energy to the status quo, and totally replace the past one .That doesn't mean a woman can forget past so easily but shows how they attach importance to actuality they own. Even though when they refer their pasts, memories will be reminded of but not be yearned any more. When they are just thinking of something but not missing it, it can definitely prove the fact that those people or things have been shunked out of their current lives.
But why we can always see so many women entangled themselves in their last relationship, playing a monodrama themselves? I puzzled about it,when I turned to psycology, I got the reason that may be relative to the aggrieved inclining in nature.So they will be involved in the anguish or even enjoy it, this same claim has been mentioned in the <sex and the city>...
In sum, women donot really grasp tightly the lost, but enjoy the strong depressed feeling after it and feel a stronger feeling that they had loved so much and more than they expected or imagined. Once the grief increases in the process, the lost loving staff seemingly be more powerful, then they drift into the aggrieved-cycle trap they dug on their own. Exactly, I am a typical sample and without ending...
About details:
It can be easily inferred from what I said above, once a women pay more attention to the relationship they involved now, they will take care of every details, and string them together to paint a whole draft about the relationship. Such as smalll promises the mate made, like bring a gift to her, plan a travel with her...if these promises were forgot by men, maybe the women will show total understanding to them for the sake of working staff or some other emergencies, but in their bottom of hearts, they care very much. So, be carefully handle it, men. The situation will be worse if you just let it be piled up little by little without any notice. The solution is to communicate in time, meanwhile women should not only bear it without saying anything. Because that is not a normal way u act, and once time flying, it maybe exploded. And to men the key is to remeber that women are brittle and sensitive, just always keeping your eye on them.
About love:
The first thing is that love is never only a staff between a man and a women. It is a wildly broad definition beyond it. But stick on this level of love only, I can also see the difference between the two genders. Man will never regard love as his whole life. And in many cases we can see that those so-called sucessful men are the ones put 2nd importance on their affections. In the same time, a woman will be lost in the affection and this relationship will be her whole world. And that's why she will feel more hurted after the end of it.
Love is described in BIBLE like: Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast; it is not proud, it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered,it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends, love never fails. ——Corinthians 13:4-8 But, If man and woman hold such a love between them, no excuse there would still exsist so many quarrels, seperations, misunderstandings,,,Such love can only be described as the love our parents give it to us... too much today, stop here and to be continued...
About Solitude发觉一个问题，MSN空间写得越是频繁，便证明此人最近过得实在是比较精神空虚，比如我。
人的孤独是与生俱来的，当没有外界因素或是排解，或是忽略它的存在的时候，便愈发凸现和放大出来。所以深夜，当工作学习暂且可以撂下，当人群的喧闹分贝骤降，当再没有人陪伴可以把自己藏在深深的热闹之下的时候，孤寂抬头，此时，总是一个人爬上MSN挥毫弄墨的好时间。那么正值正午爬上MSN的我，因为孤寂已经不分昼夜，不分场合，不管分贝，，，象一件外衣，紧紧裹住我的身体。也许所谓置之死地而后生大抵讲的就是这个感觉，曾经努力深藏的孤独，完全不加掩饰的暴露在外的时候，反倒是一阵轻松，一阵唏嘘，，，
我高举着旗帜，来吧孤独，已经承受这么多了，又怎会害怕再多一份。。。
PS:发现前两篇的日志写得实在有些象GRE的ARUGEMENT，但始终用词不敌中文可表达的那般精准，深邃，惭愧自己实在水平有限，下次还是改写中文吧。 March 09 About DistanceI refer it from a man who I learned a lot from. Admittedly, a distance is needed to every human being, but how far should it keep between different relationships in which you play a various role?
Ironically, too close a physical distance is also a risk involved in a relationship, you must be bored with the same thing for too long time. But to put this factor in a marriage, which cannot be avoided to meet the same person everyday and a lifetime and that's the reason shows why an absolute space is needed again. The key role distance plays here is not to depart you two, but to keep a more lasting and relatively closer relationship between you.
About SpaceWhat a changeable season, but I never think SPRING is a reason to seperate, one go apart from another, why so many people suffer from seperation, so depressed...bless all my friends. I suddenly have so many thoughts to write,,,slow down, let me pour them out little by little...refresh my soul as well. Look back on my MSN space, more than 3 months already. The beginning was an impluse and a little emotional factor. However, I found most time I wrote was in a glum mood. Maybe that is a time everyone wants an audience and easily turns to the space. But while having a strong need to pour out myself, the Space is still only a small window of my heart. No one can really look through it only by the means of those words, but it is a beam of light of my existence.
It is an instinct to protect oneself in that to expose oneself too wildly is a dangerous risk. Moreover I must to say, no matter how close two people, it is needed to keep an independent space of one's own. In philosophy, everybody holds an absolute space that no one else can
touch.That's the last and the least privity we need.
I once heard a teamwork designed for those married couples, each wife and husband writes a staff of your mate you cannot absolutely accept but never told to him/her, after writing, they should exchange their sealed writings and keep away and promise not to open it forever, the whole process they call it 'trust'. I display it as an evidence of my claim that even the closest couple should allow the other owns a 'never-known' space, and never be curious about it, and never let it becoem a conflict between the two independent bodies sharing with their souls. After all, even though they combine their soul as a whole, they should always be themselves, independently...that's a distance needed, and I will continue next time. March 06 Kissing,,,<DESPRATE HOUSEWIFE>
Kisses are such simple things we hardly notice them, but if we paid more attention we would see that each kiss conveys its meaning on its own......the act itself is never varied, but each kiss carries with it a meaning on its own, it can convey a husband's eternal devotion, or a wife's enormous regret, or a lover's growing passion, but whatever its meaning, each kiss reflect a basic human need, the need to contact with another human being, this need is so strong, it's always amazing...
My soliloquy:
We rarely express our emotions, but when u feel an impulse to kiss someone, please just do it, let he/she feel your temperature, do not wait to the last minute of your life, then u will not get enough time to kiss all you want to, mum, dad, friends,,,a kiss with your all affectionateness,,, January 19 线条拿着画笔不停地摆着线条，
耳边，只有淅沥的雨声和铅笔摩擦纸张的声响，
刷刷，，，刷刷，，，
小时候只是觉得很好玩，
可以在一只苹果上找到那么多颜色，
而如今手中的这只笔，
带来的是无尽的平静，安详，
我仍旧最钟情于素描作品，
黑白之中变幻着整个世界，
细腻到一丝丝细缕都需张驰有度，
稍有差池便落下个败笔，
这和中国画中的白描不同，
白描虽然精益求精，但总是太过单薄，不够质感，
我喜欢油画的那种浓烈色彩，厚重而具深度，就如凡高，
那种生命力，绝非相机可比。
索性来个泼墨挥毫的大写意，讲的是个意境，天马行空，
——为什么垂落的柳叶像是哭泣，，，
这落下的线条里孕育着悲怆的美丽，，，
不知不觉，我又游走了一个深夜，，，
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